Man thinks he rules himself with his will. The idea is nice. It's comforting to say I'm in control. But the reality is not quite like that.
Most of the day is automated. You wake up in the morning, your hand goes to the phone. No one makes decisions there. Including you. Because that behavior is no longer chosen, it is repeated.
And then you turn around and say, “This is who I am.” You are not. You repeat it like this.
Here's the thing. The brain chooses what's easy. It doesn't want to waste energy. That's what we call a habit. Continuing the same behavior with the least amount of effort. That's why it's so powerful.
There are things you have to do during the day. But somehow it gets postponed. You say “not now”, “in a little while”, “at a better time”. It sounds logical. But what you're actually doing is simple. You are putting it off.
And after a while something strange happens. It starts to feel normal. Like this is life. That's where it's dangerous. Because at that point you don't realize.
There is willpower. But it's expensive. Because willpower means going against your own comfort. People don't like that. That's why it often becomes a habit.
But sometimes there comes a moment. You stop. You really stop. And you say, “I do this all the time.” That moment is small but important. Because it's the first time you get off the automatic.
Let's be clear about this. If you keep putting off the small things, you keep putting off the big things. If you avoid confrontation, you avoid important moments. People don't change in difficult moments. He accelerates what he is doing.
Then you look back and say, “How did this happen?” Actually, there is nothing new. It was already happening. It's just more visible this time.
It's not just behavior. Gradually it becomes an identity. You become a constant procrastinator. Without realizing it. And after a while it no longer feels like an option, it feels like a character.
There is a price. Time passed. Work left undone. Missed opportunities. And worst of all, a life you're used to. Most of the time, one doesn't change one's life. They consume it by staying the same.
Now this is the critical point. Everyone who reads is asking
So what do I do?
No big plans. No motivational speeches.
There's only one thing.
Minimize what you put off.
Make it so small that it can't escape.
Five minutes.
One page.
One phone.
And do it now.
Because habit is built through repetition.
And it can only be broken by another repetition.
If you wait, you'll wait again.
If you say tomorrow, you say tomorrow.
Epilogue
Willpower is not the problem
The problem is this;
You break your promise to yourself every day
And human
Eventually
He becomes someone who does not believe his own word
Then no matter what you change in your life; nothing changes
Because now
You don't even believe you, do you?