We think love is a bond. Sufism describes it as the untying of oneself.<\/p>\n
Today we talk a lot about love, but most of the time we are not really sure what we are experiencing.<\/p>\n
Life is fast. Everything is fast. Even emotions are in a hurry. Love has also entered into this speed. It starts quickly and ends quickly. Love has become an expectation. We expect attention. We expect continuity. We expect reciprocity.<\/p>\n
We need to pause here and ask.
\nIs love really something that happens between two people?
\nOr is it an expression of one's inner world?<\/p>\n
Sufism is born out of this question.<\/p>\n
According to Sufism, love is not just loving someone. It is getting to know yourself. It is seeing what you want, realizing what you are holding on to, understanding why you cannot let go.<\/p>\n
Like is not love.
\nAttachment is not love.
\nPossession is not love.<\/p>\n
These are the states that circulate around love.<\/p>\n
Love changes you. It makes us face ourselves. That's why one asks: Who am I? Why do I want it so much?<\/p>\n
That's why in Sufism love is not a relationship. It is an inner education. The beloved is not the goal. He is a mirror. One sees oneself in the mirror. As he reduces the excesses in himself, he matures.<\/p>\n
This is how Sufism emerged. As the world got heavier, as money and power were concentrated in the hands of a few, some people realized. Faith cannot be lived only by rules. You also need a way that transforms you from the inside.<\/p>\n
Rabia al-Adawiyya describes this in its simplest form. She talks about loving God not out of fear or for reward, but because He is. So love is corrupted when it is mixed with self-interest.<\/p>\n
Sufism looks inside the human being. The nafs wants. The ego wants to grow. Arrogance closes people. Sufism does not destroy these things. It educates. It calms the nafs. It shrinks the ego.<\/p>\n
The best known name of this understanding in Anatolia is Mevlana Celaleddin Rumi. The great change in his life was his encounter with Shams-i Tebrizi.<\/p>\n
Shams disrupts Rumi's ordered life. But not to destroy it, but to open it. We are not talking about the closeness of two people. Shams is a door. Love brings Mawlana out of himself.<\/p>\n
Then comes poetry. Sema begins. Masnavi is written. In Sufi language, Shams did not give Mevlana anything. He took the ego from him. Love here is not about having, but about lacking.<\/p>\n
Today, we often experience love for comfort. We confuse intimacy with contact, love with attention. Love has become something to be reciprocated. However, in Sufism, love shakes people. It breaks habits. Because the love of God narrows every area where people put themselves at the center.<\/p>\n
The measure is simple.
\nIf love makes you more patient, you are on the right path.
\nIf it makes you more compassionate, you're on the right track.
\nIf it's simpler, you're on the right track.<\/p>\n
But if it makes you jealous, if it makes you a person who is always wanting, if it forces you to control, it is not love, it is nafs.<\/p>\n
Sufism says this. One comes closer to the Truth not when one finds someone, but when one is able to give up on oneself.<\/p>\n
Love here is not a relationship, but a path of transformation.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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