{"id":282471,"date":"2026-02-07T10:01:12","date_gmt":"2026-02-07T10:01:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/?p=282471"},"modified":"2026-02-07T10:01:12","modified_gmt":"2026-02-07T10:01:12","slug":"benlik-caginda-ask","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/benlik-caginda-ask\/","title":{"rendered":"Love in the Age of Self"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A\u015fk\u0131 bir ba\u011f sand\u0131k. Tasavvuf onu insan\u0131n kendini \u00e7\u00f6zmesi olarak anlat\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Bug\u00fcn a\u015fk hakk\u0131nda \u00e7ok konu\u015fuyoruz ama \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ne ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zdan pek emin de\u011filiz.<\/p>\n<p>Hayat h\u0131zl\u0131. Her \u015fey h\u0131zl\u0131. Duygular bile acele ya\u015f\u0131yor. A\u015fk da bu h\u0131z\u0131n i\u00e7ine girdi. \u00c7abuk ba\u015fl\u0131yor, \u00e7abuk bitiyor. Sevgi giderek bir beklentiye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. \u0130lgi bekliyoruz. S\u00fcreklilik bekliyoruz. Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k bekliyoruz.<\/p>\n<p>Burada durup \u015funu sormak gerekiyor.<br \/>\nA\u015fk ger\u00e7ekten iki ki\u015fi aras\u0131nda ya\u015fanan bir \u015fey mi?<br \/>\nYoksa insan\u0131n kendi i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n d\u0131\u015fa vurumu mu?<\/p>\n<p>Tasavvuf bu sorudan do\u011fuyor.<\/p>\n<p>Tasavvufa g\u00f6re a\u015fk sadece birini sevmek de\u011fildir. Kendini tan\u0131maya ba\u015flamakt\u0131r. Ne istedi\u011fini g\u00f6rmek, neye tutundu\u011funu fark etmek, neden b\u0131rakamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlamakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Ho\u015flanmak a\u015fk de\u011fildir.<br \/>\nBa\u011flanmak a\u015fk de\u011fildir.<br \/>\nSahip olmak a\u015fk de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n<p>Bunlar a\u015fk\u0131n etraf\u0131nda dola\u015fan hallerdir.<\/p>\n<p>A\u015fk insan\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirir. Kendimizle y\u00fczle\u015fmemizi sa\u011flar. Bu y\u00fczden insan \u015funu sorar: Ben kimim? Neden bu kadar istiyorum?<\/p>\n<p>Tasavvufta bu y\u00fczden a\u015fk bir ili\u015fki de\u011fildir. Bir i\u00e7 e\u011fitimdir. Sevgili hedef de\u011fildir. Aynad\u0131r. \u0130nsan aynada kendini g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Kendindeki fazlal\u0131klar\u0131 azaltt\u0131k\u00e7a olgunla\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Tasavvuf b\u00f6yle ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131. D\u00fcnya a\u011f\u0131rla\u015f\u0131rken, para ve g\u00fc\u00e7 az say\u0131da insan\u0131n elinde toplan\u0131rken baz\u0131 insanlar \u015funu fark etti. \u0130nan\u00e7 sadece kurallarla ya\u015fanm\u0131yor. \u0130nsan\u0131n i\u00e7ini d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcren bir yol da gerekiyor.<\/p>\n<p>Bunu en sade haliyle Rabia el-Adeviyye anlat\u0131r. Allah\u0131 korkudan ya da \u00f6d\u00fcl i\u00e7in de\u011fil, O oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in sevmekten s\u00f6z eder. Yani sevgi \u00e7\u0131karla kar\u0131\u015f\u0131nca bozulur.<\/p>\n<p>Tasavvuf insan\u0131n i\u00e7ine bakar. Nefs ister. Benlik b\u00fcy\u00fcmek ister. Kibir insan\u0131 kapat\u0131r. Tasavvuf bunlar\u0131 yok etmez. E\u011fitir. Nefsi sakinle\u015ftirir. Benli\u011fi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fclt\u00fcr.<\/p>\n<p>Anadolu\u2019da bu anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n en bilinen ismi Mevlana Celaleddin Rumi\u2019dir. Hayat\u0131ndaki b\u00fcy\u00fck de\u011fi\u015fim ise \u015eems-i Tebrizi ile kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>\u015eems, Mevlana\u2019n\u0131n d\u00fczenli hayat\u0131n\u0131 bozar. Ama y\u0131kmak i\u00e7in de\u011fil, a\u00e7mak i\u00e7in. Burada iki insan\u0131n yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan s\u00f6z etmiyoruz. \u015eems bir kap\u0131d\u0131r. A\u015fk, Mevlana\u2019y\u0131 kendinden \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra \u015fiir gelir. Sema ba\u015flar. Mesnevi yaz\u0131l\u0131r. Tasavvuf diliyle s\u00f6ylersek \u015eems, Mevlana\u2019ya bir \u015fey vermemi\u015ftir. Ondan egoyu alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. A\u015fk burada sahip olmak de\u011fil, eksilmektir.<\/p>\n<p>Bug\u00fcn ise a\u015fk\u0131 \u00e7o\u011fu zaman rahatlamak i\u00e7in ya\u015f\u0131yoruz. Yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 temasla, sevgiyi ilgiyle kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yoruz. A\u015fk kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k beklenen bir \u015feye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. Oysa tasavvufta a\u015fk insan\u0131 sarsar. Al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131 bozar. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc Allah a\u015fk\u0131, insan\u0131n kendini merkeze koydu\u011fu her alan\u0131 daralt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6l\u00e7\u00fc basit.<br \/>\nA\u015fk seni daha sab\u0131rl\u0131 yap\u0131yorsa do\u011fru yoldas\u0131n.<br \/>\nDaha merhametli yap\u0131yorsa do\u011fru yoldas\u0131n.<br \/>\nDaha sade yap\u0131yorsa do\u011fru yoldas\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p>Ama seni k\u0131skan\u00e7 yap\u0131yorsa, s\u00fcrekli isteyen biri haline getiriyorsa, kontrol etmeye zorluyorsa orada a\u015fk de\u011fil, nefs vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Tasavvuf \u015funu s\u00f6yler. \u0130nsan birini buldu\u011funda de\u011fil, kendinden vazge\u00e7ebildi\u011finde Hakka yakla\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>A\u015fk burada bir ili\u015fki de\u011fil, bir d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm yoludur.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A\u015fk insan\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirir. Kendimizle y\u00fczle\u015fmemizi sa\u011flar. Bu y\u00fczden insan \u015funu sorar: Ben kimim? Neden bu kadar istiyorum?<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":282472,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[286],"tags":[289],"class_list":{"0":"post-282471","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-yazarlar","8":"tag-manset"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/282471","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=282471"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/282471\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":282473,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/282471\/revisions\/282473"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/282472"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=282471"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=282471"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=282471"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}