{"id":282318,"date":"2026-02-03T21:35:52","date_gmt":"2026-02-03T21:35:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/?p=282318"},"modified":"2026-02-03T21:36:38","modified_gmt":"2026-02-03T21:36:38","slug":"utanmayan-biri-nasil-affedilir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/utanmayan-biri-nasil-affedilir\/","title":{"rendered":"How to forgive someone who has no shame?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Kelimeler bazen bo\u011fazda d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmlenir.<\/p>\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc baz\u0131 insanlara birini anlatmak, hakikati anlatmak de\u011fildir; vefas\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa, nank\u00f6rl\u00fc\u011fe, meze olmu\u015f zihinlere bir onur dersi vermeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmakt\u0131r. O y\u00fczden dil s\u00fcr\u00e7er, c\u00fcmle yar\u0131m kal\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ge\u00e7mi\u015fte yap\u0131lan hatalar\u0131n, han\u00e7erlemelerin, kumpaslar\u0131n mutlaka bir bedeli vard\u0131r.
\nVe o bedeli \u00f6deyenlerin \u00e7o\u011fu, \u00f6dedi\u011finin fark\u0131nda bile de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n

\u201cYa hep beraber ya hi\u00e7birimiz\u201d<\/strong> derken asl\u0131nda herkesin kirlili\u011finin, \u00e7irkefli\u011finin fark\u0131nda oldu\u011fu bir zihniyetten s\u00f6z ediyoruz. Ama bu kendini bilmezler, bu h\u00e2lden anlamazlar, bB\u00fcy\u00fck bir kumpas\u0131 kurgularken g\u00f6n\u00fcl rahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla uyudular. Mutlu oldular. Huzurlu oldular.
\nSanki d\u00fcnya bir ellerindeydi, ay \u00f6b\u00fcr\u00fcnde.<\/p>\n

Ta ki ger\u00e7ekle y\u00fczle\u015fene kadar.
\nGer\u00e7ek bazen bir uyar\u0131d\u0131r.
\nBazen bir \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131k.
\nBazen de gecikmi\u015f bir mesaj\u2026<\/p>\n

103 y\u0131ll\u0131k koca bir \u00e7\u0131nar olan Cumhuriyet Halk Partisi bug\u00fcn mahkeme koridorlar\u0131nda tart\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131yorsa, bunun tek bir sebebi vard\u0131r:
\n\u0130\u00e7eride olanlar.
\nO i\u00e7eride olup da tek ba\u015f\u0131na kalanlar.<\/p>\n

Bug\u00fcn ge\u00e7mi\u015fin g\u00fcnahlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u0131karmak ad\u0131na, d\u00fcn han\u00e7erlediklerini; kumpas kurduklar\u0131n\u0131; \u201cbabam\u201d<\/strong> dediklerini nas\u0131l ezdiklerini g\u00f6rm\u00fcyor de\u011filler. Bir vefas\u0131zl\u0131k u\u011fruna, bir hi\u00e7 u\u011fruna neleri y\u0131kt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 biliyorlar. Ama i\u015flerine gelmedi. Belki bir g\u00fcn, bir baba selam\u0131yla anlarlar diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum.<\/p>\n

Ama \u015funu da not d\u00fc\u015felim:
\nGer\u00e7ek baba, o\u011flunu affeder.
\nAma baba olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 h\u00e2lde babal\u0131k g\u00f6revini yerine getiren, omuz veren, koruyan, susarak sahip \u00e7\u0131kan birine saplanan han\u00e7erler; o babal\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6rmezden gelir. Gelmelidir de.<\/p>\n

Bir baban\u0131n evlad\u0131n\u0131 affetmesini tabii ki do\u011fal kar\u015f\u0131lar\u0131z. Fakat bunun ko\u015fullar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Ki ku\u015fkusuz bunun ilk ko\u015fulu o evlad\u0131n \u201cUtanmas\u0131d\u0131r.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Utanmayan ars\u0131z hayas\u0131z biri nas\u0131l affedilir?<\/p>\n

\u0130kinci ko\u015fulu da vard\u0131r. \u0130krar etmelidir b\u00fct\u00fcn ihanetlerini, ahlaks\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, su\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131. Hepsini teker teker anlatmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Bunu yapmayan birini nas\u0131l affedilir?<\/p>\n

Bir ko\u015fulu da yine edep sahibi olaca\u011f\u0131na, namuslu ve d\u00fcr\u00fcst olaca\u011f\u0131na dair bir \u0131\u015f\u0131k g\u00f6r\u00fclebilmelidir bu insanda. Sinsi bir \u015fekilde kendini kurtarmak i\u00e7in t\u00f6vbe etmi\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcnmemelidir . Samimi oldu\u011fu bilinebilmelidir.<\/p>\n

Helallik almal\u0131d\u0131r. Sadece ‘babas\u0131ndan’ de\u011fil, zarar verdi\u011fi her kim varsa hepsinden helallik almal\u0131d\u0131r. Zararlar\u0131n\u0131 tazmin etmelidir. Kime ne zarar\u0131 olduysa hepsinden tek tek helallik almal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Ve daha bir \u00e7ok ko\u015fulu vard\u0131r bir baban\u0131n evlad\u0131n\u0131 affetmesinin. Ki konu sadece bir baban\u0131n affetmesinin de \u00e7ok \u00e7ok \u00f6tesindedir.<\/p>\n

Bir baba evlad\u0131n\u0131 affeder. Ama evlat hala ihanet ediyorsa, hala \u00e7al\u0131p \u00e7\u0131rp\u0131yorsa, hala \u015fantajla insanlara zulmediyorsa, hala su\u00e7 ortaklar\u0131yla birlikteyse, hala babas\u0131na han\u00e7er saplamaya devam ediyorsa, iftira at\u0131yorsa, vefas\u0131zl\u0131k pe\u015findeyse, hala utanm\u0131yor arlanm\u0131yor ahlaks\u0131zl\u0131k yap\u0131yorsa ve babas\u0131na her t\u00fcrl\u00fc kumpas\u0131 d\u00fczenlemek i\u00e7in \u00e7\u0131rp\u0131n\u0131yorsa \u2026. Bir baba nas\u0131l affedebilir?<\/p>\n

Yani Silivri\u2018de yatan\u0131n da, hen\u00fcz yatmaya ba\u015flamam\u0131\u015f olanlar\u0131n da affedilmesi \u00f6yle basit bir i\u015f de\u011fildir .<\/p>\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc mesele baba olmak de\u011fil, vicdan sahibi olmakt\u0131r. Sadece babal\u0131k duygusuna de\u011fil vicdan\u0131n\u0131n sesine de kulak vermektir .<\/p>\n

Vicdan\u0131 olmayanlar ise ne vefay\u0131, ne bedel \u00f6demeyi ne de ba\u015fka de\u011ferleri kendileriyle \u00f6zde\u015fle\u015ftiremezler. Her t\u00fcrl\u00fc ahlaki de\u011feri yok sayarlar.<\/p>\n

Ve er ya da ge\u00e7 bu insani de\u011ferlerini yitirmi\u015f olan evlatlar yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 bedellerini \u00f6derler.
\nAma baz\u0131lar\u0131 bu bedeli \u00f6derken bile neden yand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlayamaz.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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