Bug\u00fcn sosyal medyada ya\u015fanan \u015fey yaln\u0131zca ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131 izlemek de\u011fil izleyerek var olma \u00e7abas\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsan ekrana bakarken yorum yapar, yarg\u0131lar, taraf tutar. O an i\u00e7in zihninde k\u0131sa bir rahatlama belirir: \u201cBen buraday\u0131m, ben d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum.\u201d Ama bu, i\u00e7eriden beslenen bir benlik de\u011fildir. Ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n sahnesine verilen tepkilerden t\u00fcreyen emanet bir histir. Video bitti\u011finde, ekran kapand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda geriye ayn\u0131 bo\u015fluk kal\u0131r. Bu y\u00fczden izleme tekrarlan\u0131r. Bir hikaye daha, bir video daha\u2026 Benlik, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n hayat\u0131 \u00fczerinden ge\u00e7ici bir denge arar.<\/p>\n
Bu durum masum de\u011fildir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan\u0131 seyirci konumuna kilitler. Kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131 kurmak yerine, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131 t\u00fcketerek var olmaya al\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bu d\u00f6ng\u00fcn\u00fcn di\u011fer y\u00fcz\u00fcnde ise en mahrem anlar\u0131n\u0131 bile if\u015fa edenler vard\u0131r. Onlar i\u00e7in mesele \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck ya da a\u00e7\u0131kl\u0131k de\u011fildir; i\u00e7eriden tutunamama halidir. Bu y\u00fczden mevzuyu ya\u015famak yetmez; ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6stermek gerekir. Mahremiyet \u00f6zel bir alan olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kar, sergilenen bir malzemeye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. Be\u011feni geldik\u00e7e rahatlama olur, ilgi s\u00fcrd\u00fck\u00e7e denge korunur. Esasen sorun payla\u015f\u0131mda de\u011fil, payla\u015f\u0131m\u0131n nedenindedir.<\/p>\n
Ortaya g\u00f6steri\u015fli ama i\u00e7i bo\u015f hayatlar \u00e7\u0131kar. Herkes g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrd\u00fcr ama kimsede derinlik yoktur. Herkes konu\u015fur ama kimse dinlemez. Herkes payla\u015f\u0131r ama kimse hat\u0131rlamaz. \u0130zlemek ya\u015famak san\u0131l\u0131r, g\u00f6r\u00fcnmek var olmak san\u0131l\u0131r. Oysa izlemek ya\u015famak de\u011fildir; g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u00fck benlik de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n
Zaman elbette sosyal medya uygulamalar\u0131n\u0131 kullanmay\u0131 gerektiriyor. Sorun kullan\u0131mda de\u011fil; kullan\u0131m\u0131n merkez mi, ara\u00e7 m\u0131 oldu\u011fundad\u0131r. Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 kullan\u0131m, hayat\u0131n yerini almaz; onu destekler. Her an tan\u0131k istemez; her duygu a\u00e7\u0131lmak zorunda de\u011fildir. G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc benlik, sessiz kalabilmeyi de ba\u015far\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Burada net ama incitmeyen bir uyar\u0131 gerekir: Kendini ucuzlatma. Her \u015feye bakmak zorunda de\u011filsin. Her \u015feyi anlatmak zorunda de\u011filsin. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131 t\u00fcketerek ya da kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131 vitrine koyarak de\u011fer kazan\u0131lmaz. Bu bir ahlak dersi de\u011fil; bir \u00f6zsayg\u0131 \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131d\u0131r. Ak\u0131ll\u0131 insan se\u00e7er. G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc insan s\u0131n\u0131r koyar. Derin insan, kendi i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6steri\u015fiyle doldurmaz.<\/p>\n
Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n sahnesinde fig\u00fcran olmay\u0131 da, kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrekli sergileme alan\u0131na \u00e7evirmeyi de b\u0131rak. Kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131n merkezine ge\u00e7. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kal\u0131c\u0131 olanlar g\u00f6steri\u015fli olanlar de\u011fil; i\u00e7eriden tutunabilenlerdir. Kal\u0131c\u0131 bir benlik, izleyerek ya da if\u015fa ederek de\u011fil, ya\u015fayarak olu\u015fur.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n sahnesinde fig\u00fcran olmay\u0131 da, kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrekli sergileme alan\u0131na \u00e7evirmeyi de b\u0131rak. Kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131n merkezine ge\u00e7.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[286],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-280659","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-yazarlar"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/280659","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=280659"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/280659\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":280661,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/280659\/revisions\/280661"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=280659"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=280659"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=280659"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}