The statements of Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f, who ended her marriage with comedian \u00d6zg\u00fcr Turhan, that she was subjected to physical and psychological violence by her ex-husband are confirmed with new information along with the ongoing divorce process. While it is learned that the court issued a digital and physical restraining order against Turhan, the clinical observation report on the couple's 5-year-old child R.T. and the messages exchanged with Turhan and the close circle of the parties were also included in the case file.<\/p>\n
\u201cHE POINTED A HAMMER AT ME IN THE ELEVATOR AND STRANGLED ME AT HOME\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n In a recent statement, Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f stated that she was subjected to severe violence during the marriage process and on the return from a couple's therapy session. Ba\u011fda\u015f said that Turhan pointed a penknife at her in the elevator and said \u201cDo you want a reason?\u201d and when they went home, Turhan strangled her in front of her mother and their son.<\/p>\n Ba\u011fda\u015f stated that she kept the whole process secret for a long time and kept silent in order to protect her child's reputation and psychology, but what happened caused her deep anxiety and fear.<\/p>\n PEDAGOGUE REPORT \u201cTHE CHILD'S EMOTIONAL SAFETY ZONE HAS BEEN DAMAGED\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n The clinical observation report included in the case file reveals in detail the emotional fluctuations the child experienced during the divorce process. According to the report:<\/p>\n There was no continuity in R.\u2019s meetings with the father, which created anxiety and uncertainty in the child,<\/p>\n The elements of \u201cprotection, hiding, disappearance, reunification\u201d are frequently seen in the game themes,<\/p>\n Feelings towards the father figure include both longing and anger at the same time,<\/p>\n That the attachment confusion experienced by the child is a reflection of parental conflict,<\/p>\n WITNESSED VIOLENCE<\/strong><\/p>\n The most striking statements in the report were as follows:<\/p>\n In the therapy, R.T. was interviewed and it was determined that R.T. described the events that took place between his mother and father with the expressions of struggle and argument. The mother was given feedback on what kind of explanations she could give to the child and what she could do to make the child feel safe.<\/p>\n FATHER REFUSES INTERVIEW REQUEST<\/strong><\/p>\n In the majority of the sessions, it was noticed that R was searching for his father, father figure, and trying to make sense of his absence; a meeting with the father was offered, but no positive response was received.<\/p>\n \u201cTHERE IS NOTHING LEFT TO DEFEND\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n In the WhatsApp messages added to the case file, the dialogues between Turhan's organizer and Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f draw attention.<\/p>\n Among the statements in the messages are the following:<\/p>\n Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f: I will change the lock now, I could not stand yesterday<\/p>\n Free Turhan's organizer: He seemed remorseful. We couldn't talk for long. He knows what he did. That's why I don't think he will come home.<\/p>\n D.B: Does he just look regretful?<\/p>\n - No, he regrets it. I just said that to pass it on to you.<\/p>\n I think it is important to be calm and take the right step at this point, you are right to do what you want. Keep an eye on R.T. I told \u00d6zg\u00fcr today that this kind of thing is very wrong in front of the child. I'm not just talking about physical fights, even if there is an argument, watch the child.<\/p>\n D.B: He didn't say \"O....\" in front of the child, he didn't strangle me. If I posted on social media yesterday, if I didn't get a protection order today, it's all for my child.<\/p>\n Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f responds to the other side's suggestion to \u2018talk\u2019 as follows:<\/p>\n No, I'm not ready right now. I don't feel like staying at home. I got in the elevator and I felt bad.<\/p>\n Turhan's organizer is seen to have said \u2018There is nothing left to defend\u2019 about \u00d6zg\u00fcr Turhan.<\/p>\n Another remarkable part of the speech includes the following statements<\/p>\n Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f: Did you talk to him or did he nod and say okay?<\/p>\n Organizer: No, he told me that he did something wrong. He said I was already bad, I got worse.<\/p>\n \u00d6ZG\u00dcR TURHAN'S LAWYER DIRECTED DENIZ BA\u011eDA\u015e TO THE KADES APPLICATION<\/strong><\/p>\n Ba\u011fda\u015f's conversation with \u00d6zg\u00fcr Turhan's lawyer is also quite remarkable.<\/p>\n Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f: Abi, don't write to \u00d6zg\u00fcr, but he was violent with me. We came out of couples therapy. He told me to fuck your reasons for divorce and pushed me into the elevator. We entered the house and he strangled me in front of R.T. O.... here's a valid reason for divorce. Don't tell him, he'll be more angry now.<\/p>\n Lawyer There is a domestic violence bureau. You can go to the police there, they will get a battering report and a restraining order will be issued, but the process will be blocked after that time. So it's really not possible.<\/p>\n Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f: Abi, good morning, yesterday I thought a little bit and I am very afraid of \u00d6zg\u00fcr. We have joint custody but if he harms me with the child, he will harm the child. How should we proceed. I don't want \u00d6zg\u00fcr to come home again. Yesterday I was trembling with fear.<\/p>\n In the continuation of the conversation, Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f said \u2018Yesterday was very bad. Insults, grabbing his throat, wagging his finger while leaving and saying that he was leaving so as not to hurt you\u2019, the lawyer told Ba\u011fda\u015f to download this application and asked him to download KADES application.<\/p>\n A CLOSE FRIEND OF \u00d6ZG\u00dcR'S: NEITHER YOU NOR YOUR CHILD DESERVE THIS<\/strong><\/p>\n Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f's conversation with \u00d6zg\u00fcr Turhan's close friend includes the following statements:<\/p>\n \u00d6zg\u00fcr Turhan's friend, neither you nor R.T. deserve to go through this. I have already told him that what he did was wrong and I hit him in the face.<\/p>\n Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f: It is a separate violence for a mentally ill person to stand up and say that he is very sorry in these days when women are bullied when he still hasn't apologized properly.<\/p>\n A: What did he swear the other day?<\/p>\n Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f: He was talking on video. I was making him talk to R.T. to be more precise. When R.T. said he missed me and I was going to come, his eyes welled up, the same thing he did when he was married. I hung up the phone. R.T. asked, \u2018Mom, what did Dad say last time?.<\/p>\n \u201cI'M SCARED, I'M WORRIED\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n Message from Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f to \u00d6zg\u00fcr Turhan: \u201cIt caused me anxiety and stress disorder\u201d<\/p>\n One of the most striking texts in the case file is the long explanation message Ba\u011fda\u015f sent to Turhan. Ba\u011fda\u015f states that the violence she experienced had serious psychological effects on her:<\/p>\n \u201cThe physical and verbal violence you showed me caused me great fear. I went through a lot psychologically. My stress disorder increased to the level of derealization. Turhan replied to the message, \u201cWe can talk, either come to the office or meet outside.\u201d.<\/p>\n COURT CASE IN PROGRESS<\/strong><\/p>\n Following the court's digital and physical restraining order:<\/p>\n The pedagogue report, Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f's statements, messages exchanged with Turhan's close circle, correspondence between the parties are among the important evidence of the divorce process.<\/p>\n The legal process is expected to continue in the coming days with new testimonies, expert reports and additional applications.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Komedyen \u00d6zg\u00fcr Turhan ile evlili\u011fini noktalayan Deniz Ba\u011fda\u015f\u2019\u0131n eski e\u015fi taraf\u0131ndan fiziksel ve psikolojik \u015fiddete u\u011frad\u0131\u011f\u0131na ili\u015fkin a\u00e7\u0131klamalar\u0131, devam eden bo\u015fanma s\u00fcreciyle birlikte yeni bilgilerle do\u011frulan\u0131yor. Mahkemenin Turhan hakk\u0131nda dijital ve fiziki uzakla\u015ft\u0131rma karar\u0131 verdi\u011fi \u00f6\u011frenilirken; \u00e7iftin 5 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki \u00e7ocu\u011fu R.T’ye dair klinik g\u00f6zlem raporu ile taraflar\u0131n yak\u0131n \u00e7evresi ve Turhan\u2019la yap\u0131lan mesajla\u015fmalar da dava […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":279891,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-279890","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-yasam"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/279890","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=279890"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/279890\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":279957,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/279890\/revisions\/279957"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/279891"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=279890"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=279890"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halkweb.com.tr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=279890"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nI am scared, I am sad, I am worried. The fact that this is covered up and life goes on as if it is normal makes me angry.
\nI wanted to talk face to face, but I have no hope. I know you won't listen to the rest when you're angry.
\nI just wanted an apology, and you didn't give me one.
\nI don't want an apology anymore, I just want you to understand.\u201d<\/p>\n