The statements of Deniz Bağdaş, who ended her marriage with comedian Özgür Turhan, that she was subjected to physical and psychological violence by her ex-husband are confirmed with new information along with the ongoing divorce process. While it is learned that the court issued a digital and physical restraining order against Turhan, the clinical observation report on the couple's 5-year-old child R.T. and the messages exchanged with Turhan and the close circle of the parties were also included in the case file.
“HE POINTED A HAMMER AT ME IN THE ELEVATOR AND STRANGLED ME AT HOME”
In a recent statement, Deniz Bağdaş stated that she was subjected to severe violence during the marriage process and on the return from a couple's therapy session. Bağdaş said that Turhan pointed a penknife at her in the elevator and said “Do you want a reason?” and when they went home, Turhan strangled her in front of her mother and their son.
Bağdaş stated that she kept the whole process secret for a long time and kept silent in order to protect her child's reputation and psychology, but what happened caused her deep anxiety and fear.
PEDAGOGUE REPORT “THE CHILD'S EMOTIONAL SAFETY ZONE HAS BEEN DAMAGED”
The clinical observation report included in the case file reveals in detail the emotional fluctuations the child experienced during the divorce process. According to the report:
There was no continuity in R.’s meetings with the father, which created anxiety and uncertainty in the child,
The elements of “protection, hiding, disappearance, reunification” are frequently seen in the game themes,
Feelings towards the father figure include both longing and anger at the same time,
That the attachment confusion experienced by the child is a reflection of parental conflict,
WITNESSED VIOLENCE
The most striking statements in the report were as follows:
In the therapy, R.T. was interviewed and it was determined that R.T. described the events that took place between his mother and father with the expressions of struggle and argument. The mother was given feedback on what kind of explanations she could give to the child and what she could do to make the child feel safe.
FATHER REFUSES INTERVIEW REQUEST
In the majority of the sessions, it was noticed that R was searching for his father, father figure, and trying to make sense of his absence; a meeting with the father was offered, but no positive response was received.
“THERE IS NOTHING LEFT TO DEFEND”
In the WhatsApp messages added to the case file, the dialogues between Turhan's organizer and Deniz Bağdaş draw attention.
Among the statements in the messages are the following:
Deniz Bağdaş: I will change the lock now, I could not stand yesterday
Free Turhan's organizer: He seemed remorseful. We couldn't talk for long. He knows what he did. That's why I don't think he will come home.
D.B: Does he just look regretful?
- No, he regrets it. I just said that to pass it on to you.
I think it is important to be calm and take the right step at this point, you are right to do what you want. Keep an eye on R.T. I told Özgür today that this kind of thing is very wrong in front of the child. I'm not just talking about physical fights, even if there is an argument, watch the child.
D.B: He didn't say "O...." in front of the child, he didn't strangle me. If I posted on social media yesterday, if I didn't get a protection order today, it's all for my child.
Deniz Bağdaş responds to the other side's suggestion to ‘talk’ as follows:
No, I'm not ready right now. I don't feel like staying at home. I got in the elevator and I felt bad.
Turhan's organizer is seen to have said ‘There is nothing left to defend’ about Özgür Turhan.
Another remarkable part of the speech includes the following statements
Deniz Bağdaş: Did you talk to him or did he nod and say okay?
Organizer: No, he told me that he did something wrong. He said I was already bad, I got worse.
ÖZGÜR TURHAN'S LAWYER DIRECTED DENIZ BAĞDAŞ TO THE KADES APPLICATION
Bağdaş's conversation with Özgür Turhan's lawyer is also quite remarkable.
Deniz Bağdaş: Abi, don't write to Özgür, but he was violent with me. We came out of couples therapy. He told me to fuck your reasons for divorce and pushed me into the elevator. We entered the house and he strangled me in front of R.T. O.... here's a valid reason for divorce. Don't tell him, he'll be more angry now.
Lawyer There is a domestic violence bureau. You can go to the police there, they will get a battering report and a restraining order will be issued, but the process will be blocked after that time. So it's really not possible.
Deniz Bağdaş: Abi, good morning, yesterday I thought a little bit and I am very afraid of Özgür. We have joint custody but if he harms me with the child, he will harm the child. How should we proceed. I don't want Özgür to come home again. Yesterday I was trembling with fear.
In the continuation of the conversation, Deniz Bağdaş said ‘Yesterday was very bad. Insults, grabbing his throat, wagging his finger while leaving and saying that he was leaving so as not to hurt you’, the lawyer told Bağdaş to download this application and asked him to download KADES application.
A CLOSE FRIEND OF ÖZGÜR'S: NEITHER YOU NOR YOUR CHILD DESERVE THIS
Deniz Bağdaş's conversation with Özgür Turhan's close friend includes the following statements:
Özgür Turhan's friend, neither you nor R.T. deserve to go through this. I have already told him that what he did was wrong and I hit him in the face.
Deniz Bağdaş: It is a separate violence for a mentally ill person to stand up and say that he is very sorry in these days when women are bullied when he still hasn't apologized properly.
A: What did he swear the other day?
Deniz Bağdaş: He was talking on video. I was making him talk to R.T. to be more precise. When R.T. said he missed me and I was going to come, his eyes welled up, the same thing he did when he was married. I hung up the phone. R.T. asked, ‘Mom, what did Dad say last time?.
“I'M SCARED, I'M WORRIED”
Message from Deniz Bağdaş to Özgür Turhan: “It caused me anxiety and stress disorder”
One of the most striking texts in the case file is the long explanation message Bağdaş sent to Turhan. Bağdaş states that the violence she experienced had serious psychological effects on her:
“The physical and verbal violence you showed me caused me great fear. I went through a lot psychologically. My stress disorder increased to the level of derealization.
I am scared, I am sad, I am worried. The fact that this is covered up and life goes on as if it is normal makes me angry.
I wanted to talk face to face, but I have no hope. I know you won't listen to the rest when you're angry.
I just wanted an apology, and you didn't give me one.
I don't want an apology anymore, I just want you to understand.”
Turhan replied to the message, “We can talk, either come to the office or meet outside.”.
COURT CASE IN PROGRESS
Following the court's digital and physical restraining order:
The pedagogue report, Deniz Bağdaş's statements, messages exchanged with Turhan's close circle, correspondence between the parties are among the important evidence of the divorce process.
The legal process is expected to continue in the coming days with new testimonies, expert reports and additional applications.